Have you ever looked back at certain chapters in your life and thought, “What If?”
Pretty sure, if you’re human, you have. My mother always told me to not look back, what’s done is done and the only thing you can do is move forward. This day is the only day there is. She’s a very smart lady with a deep faith and seems to handle things with grace. She didn’t always, so I guess some wisdom truly does come with age and experience.
Or, it’s that thing of not giving a s*it what anyone thinks. That too, comes with wisdom, age and experience and just letting go of the outcome. Because, as much as we try, there are very few things in life, we can control. Our emotions, the way we react to situations and how we go on from those tough lessons are really the only things we can “control” and even then, it’s difficult.
JUST. LET. GO.
As a writer and a rather emotional-type person, I always look for metaphors and the meaning behind things. As ridiculous as it sounds, the movie Finding Nemo is peppered throughout with those metaphors. I loved Dory, that flighty little fish that kept telling Nemo’s dad, Marlin to “Just keep swimming.” She had this sweet way about her, giving out pearls of wisdom from the simplest things in the midst of dire situations. Marlin kept trying to control things because of losing his wife and it affected the way he treated his son, Nemo. (See, I really do get into finding the underlying message in things, even in a cartoon movie.)
Anyway, at one point, Marlin and Dory, on their way to find Nemo encounter a whale. Marlin hung on for dear life at the mouth of the great beast. It was so terrifying for him and he just knew that the whale wanted to do them harm. Dora yells at him to Just let go! and they were swallowed up. The meaning being sometimes the most scary situations get you to where you need to be.
Life Will Make You Let Go Whether You Like It or Not
Several years back, I had this fantastic job. It was in marketing and I got to travel, the money was great and I slowly made my way up to becoming a more executive member of the company. But, something wasn’t right and I’d drag myself into work everyday and tell myself everyone felt like this about their job.
I was going through alot of other stuff at the time and it got to the point, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I walked in one day and just quit. Quit. The next few years were spent trying different things and at one point, I had four different jobs, working as a docent at an art gallery and running around like a crazy person training people (this was when I was heavy into physical fitness — like a maniac-type person, you know the kind) at four different places.
The money — no where near what I’d left. I look back on that now and seriously wonder how I made it through. I think I was trying to do so much so that I couldn’t think about anything and not have to work on what I needed to work on the most: Myself.
That realization came another few years later. I remember sitting on my porch outside and it was one of those aha moments — you know where the clutter just clears and you finally, finally know that you’ve got to let go and just get the hell on with things.
A Work In Progress
I can relate to Dory (her naivety, her spunk and her spirit) and to Marlin as well — his need to control and scurry about trying to not let this happen and fretting about if it does, WHAT THEN, WHAT THEN??!! And, I guess, even little Nemo because he was lost for awhile.
What I’ve learned is that if even that worst thing you think happens does indeed happen, you deal with it. You get through the worst part of the storm and eventually the seas calm down and the swimming gets easier.
That is, until the next big swells, storms and waves come up to engulf you. You just keep swimming until you’re not fighting the currents, but floating along with a sureness and a wisdom that letting go not only gets you there quicker but allows you to embrace what’s up ahead.
How do you let go? Below is a classic song by The Cranberries that reflects that quite nicely I think (plus it’s a great song to ride in a convertible with the top down). .
Have a lovely Monday, everyone.