I’ve been in the blogging world for almost four months now, so I don’t claim to be an expert at this way we find ourselves communicating in the 21st century. I do, however, consider myself a gracious and nice human being and try to extend courtesies when someone takes the time to acknowledge my work.
With that in mind, I’ve come up with a few tips that I believe all bloggers should keep in mind when they have something to say, whether that be from their own writing or when they comment on others.
1. Find other blogs that you like and comment
I’ve found those blogs by exploring, sometimes through Freshly Pressed blogs, friends’ blogs or just by accident. If I find one that I think is interesting, funny or inspiring, I make a comment. I figure if they’ve taken the time to write something, I can do the same. If someone decides to follow me, I follow them. With the way in which we can control those alerts/comments, I don’t see a reason why one shouldn’t.
BTW, if you’ve got thousands of followers — congrats, I know it’s hard work — but some of your blog’s success stems from other bloggers paying homage to yours. Please take the time to visit your supporters’ blogs every once in awhile to leave a comment, share the love please!
“Likes” are great, but if possible leave a comment and a “Like,” why not? Yes, I’m guilty of the same thing — just leaving a “Like” (I WELCOME all “Likes” and thank you so much to all who have taken the time to like my posts) but a comment, now that’s good stuff.
2. Be nice/positive when leaving a comment
This should be a given and we do have the opportunity to ignore or disapprove comments, but they still hurt (negative comments) the one who receives them. I’ve not received any mean-spirited comments; everyone in the blogging community has been wonderful, but I’ve visited other blogs where I’ve seen rather unkind comments. Even if you critique someone’s work or disagree, start out with what you liked about a post and then cite what you may not agree with – in a constructive, kind manner. Judith Martin (Miss Manners) says: When virtues are pointed out first, flaws seem less insurmountable.
3. Reply back to those who take the time to comment
Another thing that I think should be a given, but alas, it doesn’t always happen. If someone comments on my blog, I reply back with a thank you and a few words of encouragement to them. It’s just good manners. From Emily Post: Manner is personality—the outward manifestation of one’s innate character and attitude toward life. You get back what you give.
P.S. (If I’ve inadvertently not done so to anyone who may be reading this, then my heartfelt apologies).
We get ideas from current trends and from reading fellow bloggers’ posts. Someone’s musings help us create our own — say thank you, it only takes a sentence or two. If you find yourself writing a blog that was prompted by reading someone else’s, then mention who inspired you with a link back to their blog. From Anne Lamott: Here are the two best prayers I know: Help, help me, help and Thank you, thank you, thank you.
BTW, read the excerpt from blogger Rachel Bertsche and best-selling author of MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend who was the inspiration for my post. She gleaned inspiration from another blogger to share her tips.
5. Share your wisdom
There are so many talented people out there! Great writers, poets, photographers, musicians, satirists, comedians, spiritual souls and hobbyists who share their time and talents. A couple of bloggers have asked me for advice and I replied back to them — quickly. I was flattered that they valued my opinion and hopefully, I helped them in some small way. Share what you know; you never know when you may need a little help to inspire you.
That’s my five tips for courteous blogging. Do you have any to share?