I’m not a patient person but I’m working on it.
As most of you know, I’ve been
whining talking about not being inspired lately. I’ve read the same from some of you. That feeling of “eh,” or as others say: Meh.
I don’t know if it’s the heat, the funky doldrums I’ve found myself in lately or just becoming very impatient with myself to shell out some pearls of wisdom. I’ve started posts, then read them and think — Nah, you’re not posting that!
So…I’ve waited until I could deliver something that may resonate with all you talented, nice bloggers that take time out of your day to make a comment. Sometimes you just have to wait it out, let the dust settle.
The Other Me
I don’t know if any of you have journaled throughout the years. I have. I’ve got so many of them since I was about thirteen. I have no idea what I’m going to do with them all. Every once in awhile, I’ll pull one out and read about the thoughts, trials and tribulations that, that other me went through.
Some of them were doozies and I read her now and feel very loving and patient toward her — now. She berated herself a lot. She expected very high standards of herself but not of others. She was far more patient with people than she was with herself. When she “messed up,” she treated herself with derision and disrespect. Not others, mind you. Just herself.
I realize that a lot of the things I went through was because I wanted my life to go this way or that way and I made the most “mistakes” when I tried to forcibly steer it. Even if something wasn’t right (and Good Lord, the signs were there), I’d plunge headlong into it anyway because I didn’t have the patience to wait.
But, as I’ve gained wisdom, compassion and PATIENCE I began to see a pattern. Once you see that — a pattern and become attuned to why you do the things you do, you can change it. It takes awhile, but you can change it. And you learn so much.
Patience has a lot to do with that. And part of being patient is to know that doing nothing at all until you receive some sort of feeling, sign, voice — whatever — it’s different for all of us. But it does come eventually, that knowing of what you need to do.
Breaking Through the Clutter
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, Nothing can bring peace but yourself. Have you ever thought you have to defend your beliefs, your opinions or for lack of a better word, fight, to get your message or who you are across to someone? It never works out when you approach it from a defensive stance. It works when it comes from a place of peace, patience. One of the best things I ever read (and I’ve read all sorts of things from different religions, viewpoints, etc.) and seriously, they all share the same common thread — it’s about that — patience, love, acceptance and peace. Once you acquire that, no one can take away it away from you.
Buddha said something like if someone’s trying your patience, trying to undermine you or make you feel as if your beliefs (which is who you are) are wrong, then you should just step back and answer them with peace.
In other words, have the strength and patience to say: You may be right. And let it go, walk away.
Whatever the argument is or the attack on you or your character. You’re not agreeing, you’re just diffusing the anger. And really, when someone attacks you or your beliefs, it’s coming from a place (theirs) of anger and misunderstanding.
It’s difficult, but it works every time. That simple, You may be right. Try it. You’ll find that all that toxic angriness just dissolves and you walk away, still having those things you hold dear intact. Words have weight and I’ve learned that patience is one of the best gifts I can give others and myself.
A dear friend who’s not in the physical world with me anymore (the anniversary of losing him was last week); that probably has much to do with how I’ve been feeling lately. It crept up on me — that day. I still talk to him. He was my best man at my wedding. (yeah, hubby had one and so did I — this friend was with me and my bridesmaids in all our pictures) and I miss him. He was one of those friends, the kind that stick with you no matter what you’re going through.
He always said to me, “B, you gotta live your life for you. No explanations, no apologies, no regrets. Be patient with yourself and everything will work out.”
He was right. I hope that if you’re struggling with a decision or something in your life today, you’ll have the patience to wait for that clarity you need. Be patient, it’ll come.
Happy “late” Monday everyone and thanks for having the patience to read to the end.free your mind, pearls of wisdom, clarity, be you