Okay, so I set myself up for this. Committing to going somewhere at least once a week to seek out adventure or at the very least, explore something new.
Tuesday was a gorgeous day here. Sunny, blue/white skies, temps in the high 40s. I thought a road trip was in order so I jumped in my trusty on-its-last-Honda-civic-won’t-ever-die-days-even-when-it-goes-through-a-hurricane-and-I’ve-got-to-get-a-new-one-but-I’m-dreading-a-car-payment and took off to Patchogue, pronounced PATCH HOG.
My destination — Main Street, 41 Main to be exact at ROAST – Coffee and Tea Trading Company. Best of Long Island Magazine rated it as one of the best coffee houses on the island. I like coffee and I like tea so I thought it’d be a good place as any to begin my adventures.
Tea and Other Things
It’s much like any other cool, cozy coffee/tea place with dark wood floors, brick walls, local artwork hanging here and there, but at the back of it is Bridgehampton National Bank.
Yep, you enter the coffee house off Main and if you want to do some banking, just keep walking on through past the big coffee grinder machine, the counter filled with goodies, and some big burlap bags brimming with what I’m guessing is coffee and/or tea and step into the Bridgehampton National Bank.
I walked up to the counter.
A young man with one of those knit caps that young men wear all year long and glasses that used to be considered nerdy, but are now cool asked me, “What will you have?” Very, very nice and very polite. Engaging. Making eye contact.
Like an idiot I ask, “Do you have tea?”
“We have 40 different kinds of teas,” he says, waiting patiently, then, “You can smell them.”
“What?” I asked confused.
“Teas, if you like you can smell them,” he pointed behind me where there was loose tea leaves inside jars that I could go over and smell for awhile. I didn’t have the time nor desire to smell them so I chose a green tea, hot, with persimmon, jasmine, pineapple and ginger-root or the root of something in it I think, and a carrot muffin. Both were very good.
There was a smattering of patrons. An older man sat at a table near the window eating a ham sandwich and drinking a Diet Coke.
“Calm before the storm, huh?” He tilted his head toward the window — that blue sky with fluffy clouds scattered across it. It was difficult to understand him. He was dressed dapperly, with a beret-like cap, navy canvas jacket, khaki pants and he had no teeth.
I nodded in agreement, “Yes, it’s beautiful today. I hope we don’t get much snow.”
“Nah,” he says chewing, his chin going nearly up to his nose, the way it does when a mouth has no teeth inside to get in the way, “Maybe some snow, some rain. Did ya see that fire up in Port Jeff?”
I told him no, I wasn’t from this area. “Big fire, big one,” he says. He gets up shortly after that, gathering up his “mess,” putting it in the garbage can. He comes back and gives me the napkin holder that had been on his table. “Here, in case you need some.” He smiled his folded-in smile at me and left.
A man and his daughter, both intently tapping and I guess texting on their smart phones, ignoring each other sat over to my right. A lovely gray-haired lady, smartly dressed and deep in thought sat at a table behind me. Some dudes with laptops and cell phones scattered all over the tables, doing something and then a seating area of comfy leather couches that had one man splayed out on one who stayed that way and talked on his cell phone the entire time.
The ROAST played music like this:
And this:

This gentleman sat outside near ROAST, soaking up some sun. In my mind, I named him Thaddeus. Thaddeus from Patchogue.
I also took a few pictures once I left ROAST of the goings-on in Patchogue that day.

This guy was walking up and down the street. I wonder if this is an acting gig. Maybe I’ll see him in a movie one day. I could do this.

I didn’t go in here but it looks cool. I like cheese, jewelry and home boutiquey stuff. Maybe next time.
Was It Worth An Hour’s Drive?
I’d say ROAST is a cross between Starbucks, with a little a grunge thrown in (the young, cool baristas, female and male, very nice — dangling earrings, tiny piercing on one; tee-shirt with words on it and the aforementioned knit cap on the other) with just enough tony ambiance to make it attractive to older patrons with money.
Does that paint a good picture for you? I liked it. It felt comfortable with a nice vibe. Was it worth nearly an hour’s drive to get there? Yes, the experience was worth it.
Sometimes taking a long drive by yourself when the weather is just right and you turn on some tunes and take in the scenery going by is an adventure in itself. Strip malls, car dealerships, workplaces, restaurants, small villages with 35 MPH speed limits flitted past my windows as I drove along. Sometimes the getting there — the journey — is worth it.
As I drove along, I didn’t plug it my iPod to listen to the songs I already have and have listened to plenty of times, I turned on the radio, full-blast, and at times sang my heart out.
Brigitte’s Road Trip — Partial Playlist to Patchogue (courtesy of the radio)
- Cruel Summer by Bananarama
- Viva la Vida by Coldplay
- I Found Someone by Cher (yeah, Cher)
- Crash by Dave Matthews
- Fallin’ by Alecia Keys
- Raise Your Glass by Pink
- Free Falling by Tom Petty
- Rock Your Baby by George McCrae
- Carry On Wayward Son by Kansas
- Never Surrender by Corey Hart (I know, I listened to the entire song without changing the station.)
- For Those About to Rock by AC/DC
- The Weight by The Band
- Let It Be by The Beatles
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Next week….another coffee house? A park? The city? What do you suggest or where will you take your next excellent adventure? What would be on your road trip play list?

I would like to take a road trip in this. All tricked out with luxury on the inside, a cappuccino maker and iPod Bose system so I could play Born to Be Wild. And a television/DVD player, mattress and refrigerator.
You have inspired me – I must have some adventures too — if I do I will share–thank you for sharing! Glad you are getting out and about and living life–but do we really have a choice?
Well good! It might not have been the most exciting “adventure” but it is a step forward for me and you are right. Life is good. We must live it. Thanks, Lou Ann.
it is just the kind of adventure I like
Love the adventure! I may have to take one….when the snow clears, that is. 🙂
Hi Beth — thank you and welcome. Yeah, snow can get in the way unless you can find one in your backyard…. 😉
My backyard adventure is trying to keep the deer out of my bird feeders….which I have about given up on after 3 trashed feeders thanks to their hunger. 🙂
Oh, now you could get some good pics of that before you run them off. 😉
Trust me—I have gotten tons of pictures of their sweet innocent faces with mouths open munching…..
Aren’t spur of the moment road trips the best? I’m due for another.. This looks like it was such a fun day.. Love the way they display the Wi-Fi password too 🙂
Great shots to remember this day by and our playlists are very similar 🙂
Lynne, they often are. It was fun — just getting out and getting there was fun. Glad we share a love of music — all genres — it soothes the soul, eh? Thank you!
I loved this, Brigitte! Patchoque sounds like a lovely destination for a cup of tea and a little exploring! I’m glad you got out on such a lovely day. Thanks for taking us with you. I’ve never been to Long Island, but I hear it’s beautiful. Peter grew up in Connecticut and sailed in Long Island Sound for many years and I guess he visited a lot of places in Long Island on his sailboat. He has always talked about taking me there. Yes, wouldn’t it be grand to go on a great adventure in that VW microbus?
It was, Cathy and a lovely day to do it. There are parts of Long Island that are gorgeous. We live on the South Shore but the North Shore is beautiful as well — more hilly and rocky. The Long Island Sound is very nice. You should ask him about Cold Spring Harbor — wow. And yes, I’ve always wanted a VW van. I’d probably not go full force with the flowers, but I like the way they look. Thanks, Cathy.
Oh, I think flowers are perfect for the vehicle – I certainly wouldn’t put them on my Crysler Crossfire! Yes, he love Cold Spring Harbor and also says that Block Island is very cool.
Haven’t been to Block Island. Ferried to Fire Island but not since the hurricane. I think it was pretty wiped out and they are rebuilding. Now, I have to find out where Block Island is….!
I’m not sure either, but apparently it’s a great sailboat destination.
I’m glad I’m not the only one with eclectic taste in music. Probably 10 or 11 of those songs could be found on any one of my many play lists, too. In this way we are very similar. I also love the music they played in Roast. Doesn’t music play such an important role in setting the mood? This was super coolio. I love that you did this little road trip and went exploring, and yes, I hate the signage for “Hiz and Herz,” too. Barf. And in purple no less.
Your weather looks much better than ours, here in Chicago. I can’t wait for some blue skies and warmer temps. Maybe I’ll have to make a trip out to Long Island over the summer! Wouldn’t that be fun?
Great post, Brigitte!!
Lisa
Lol about your car!!
You know, I like so many different kinds of music, Lisa. I find myself listening to the iPod alot and forget that at times, the radio, which is what I grew up listening to (and worked in the industry for a few years) gives us the pleasure of hearing songs we’ve not heard in awhile. And music does set the mood, big time. We went to this little cafe in the Hamptons one weekend, but they were playing this LOUD techno music and it ruined the experience. That’s big around here — that techno music — it’s in the gyms, some restaurants and hair salons. I don’t get it, it’s so jarring to me.
Anyhoo, the weather was BEAUTIFUL that day. The clouds are back and the threat of some rain/snow. And YES, it would be fun for you to come to Long Island in the summer. You let me know. Thanks, Lisa!! (and yeah, the car — we have to get a new one — Hondas NEVER die). 😉
Hey. I have a great place for you to go once the weather gets warmer. Maybe you’ve already been? The Old Westbury Mansion/estate. I think they give tours still. My mom and her second husband used to live on the grounds and for a short while I cleaned the Main residence. There’s this cool pink house on the property that I used to love to stay in. It has an old bathtub that’s like 6 feet long and I remember taking luxurious baths in it. Everything is so old and rich, there. I think they still use Old Westbury to film TV, Commercials and Movies. That family, with their old money, hob nobbed with the queen of England – they’re like American royalty. The matriarch died several years ago. She always intimidated me. 🙂 haha! I was pregnant with Lily when I worked there.
Lisa, you never cease to amaze me with your stories! Why don’t you write about this??? I’ve heard of this mansion. I think I wrote a bio for some real estate agent/artist that served on a board there or displayed her art work there. There are a lot of MANSIONS around here, as I’m sure you know. Cold Spring Harbor is fantastic and Oy-sta Bay (Oyster Bay). Jennifer Lopez has a house somewhere on the North Shore — I can’t remember which “village” it is. So you and Lily were in the same place I am now — kind of — I’m pretty sure I’ve driven past it. How wonderful!!
I just found out recently, like in the last year, that some of my ancestors were in Long Island in the mid 1600’s! (Oyster Bay, Hempstead, and South Hampton!) Too bad I don’t have the original property / land deeds and can go back and stake my claim! haha!
Lisa, I so wish you had some land in those places too. I would be a constant companion at your place.
It’s hard for me to picture you there with your southern roots and genteel ways. Do you sometimes feel like a fish out of water? Do you ever think one day you’ll return to the area where you grew up? My mom grew up in Mississippi and lived most of her adult life in New York. I’m not sure she ever felt 100% comfortable but it made her life bigger and richer for the experience.
I don’t know about genteel but I do feel a little out place at times. There are a lot of people here and I’m more accustomed to more space. There are things I really like about living here but I do get homesick for the South sometimes. I wish we could have small places in both places. Summers are great here, winters very long and gray!
My post today was all about human interaction, but I feel like I totally took a trip to “Patch Hog” right here on my couch in the Northwest. AND I’m listening to your mp3. AND I liked your road trip music. THANKS!
Hey Michelle — I’ve got to get over to your post. I feel that sometimes are world is getting “smaller” through this means of communication but we’re losing that human interaction thing, that well, makes us human! Thank you and glad you’re enjoying the tunes, my friend. Thank YOU.
Sounds like a fantastic time, Brigitte. I really love all the photos–that really is some grinder!
I love (or strongly like) every song on the playlist, though I confess I haven’t listened to conventional radio in a very long time. Smiled at Corey Hart, he was a favorite, especially “I Wear My Sunglasses at Night”.
I look forward to hearing about your future adventures! ~ C
Hi Christy, thank you! I don’t normally ever listen to the radio but I did that day, hoping I’d hear a different variety and I did. Cher really belts it out in her song — HA! Adventures, both big and small, are worth it. Good for the soul, you know? Nice to see you here again.
Cher is totally fun to sing along with! “Believe” and “Bang, Bang” and a few others are on multiple road trip playlists.
Add “The Boys of Summer” by Don Henley and “Radar Love” by Golden Earring to one of your future trips– they are so fun to sing along with!
OMG, the Boys of Summer — fantastic convertible song and Golden Earring’s Radar Love — so good, so good.
What a Great Adventure! I love acting as a tourist in my home town as well as getting out to travel and adventure to new places too. Have a Great One – thanks for sharing:)
Hi Craves, well you definitely know about adventure so perhaps I should look to you for tips. Thank YOU for stopping by and any tips — very appreciated!
“cheese, jewelry and home boutiquey stuff”—That’s quite the interesting combination. Do they happen to sell cheese earrings? 😉
Not sure, but if they do and I bought some, they wouldn’t make it home. 😀
I like the statue of liberty man. Not sure I’d like his job tho.
Yes, so did I. I’ve heard of the crazy jobs that one does to get into acting. They’re everywhere here. I keep thinking of taking acting lessons myself. Have always wanted to! Why not, right? Thanks, WBD.
The love mobile would be a great vehicle for a get-away. Grab a great Dane and some Scooby Snacks, put on a mini skirt and you’d be ready to solve a mystery with the Scooby gang. I love your idea to explore something new each week. I need to do that.
Ha Char! I didn’t even think of that although the antique shop I explored while there had a sweet pair of white go-go boots. I knew I should have picked them up. Here’s to exploring — you never know what you’re gonna find. Thanks, Char!
Go-Go boots. I’d forgotten about those. Too bad you passed them up. You kind of look like Daphne in your Gravatar (with glasses). I think you would have pulled them off nice.
If Daphne was a blonde, maybe. 😉
She probably eventually went blond. My sister did after she tried red.
I love the fact that you did this trip for yourself, I’m trying the same thing here in England. I find taking the first step the biggest hurdle. Look forward to hearing were you end up next week. 🙂
Why thank you, it was fun. The first step in ANY new venture is always the biggest hurdle, after that it gets easier and easier. Thank you and have a wonderful time exploring England.
I love this… and you know if you are feeling really adventurous and I am feeling adventurous..our borders are close. Just saying….
Great photos. Love the look of “life”
Songs 4,7,9 and 11– Oh yea!
Thanks, Audra — I’m glad you enjoyed. I think I’d love to be a travel writer. And yeah, we should get adventurous together….you let me know. Good choices btw off the playlist. I knew you were an Ac/Dc fan. I saw them in concert once.
oh you lucky dog seeing AC/DC– screaming good music– good release, right?
Ok lady– well if we really want to meet there is no excuse. Right? there also is no pressure– says the introvert.(smile)
Perhaps when the weather warms up and no threat of this damn white stuff. Over ten inches and still falling.
Ok back to homework.. sigh. So much for a snow day.
What are you taking your class in? did I miss that somewhere?
It was and that little guy with the shorts never stops. We have freaking snow here too but not as much as you I don’t think. I’m kind of an introvert myself at times and yes, no threat of snow. I can’t stand to drive in the stuff. Hubby and I are taking a class in Italian – we’ll see how that goes. Get back to your homework. 😉
We have those Liberty tax folks out on the streets, too. 😉 At least it’s not 90 degrees outside so they’re not “roast”ing in the costumes. Okay, bad pun!
My upcoming maiden voyage to the Fairfax County Deeds Office probably qualifies as an adventure. Driving in the northern Virginia suburbs always is. 😉
JM, that kind of job would suck in the heat but he seemed pretty happy, strolling back and forth Talking on his cell phone every once in a while. So you’re having an adventure in the burbs? Did you ever see that movie with Tom Hanks called The Burbs? Lots of adventure could be found there I suspect. ;). Thanks, JM!
Roast looks like a place right up my alley. Glad you had fun, Brigitte. I definitely had fun just reading about it and looking at your pictures. 🙂 The playlist is excellent as well. When I was still in school, sometimes I’d walk home by a different route as my way of spicing things up and going on an ‘adventure.’ Your post has reminded me that I should take more opportunities to do this! And I suggest going to an unknown park next time and perhaps just doing some people-watching. You can let us know what interesting characters you meet and observe. 🙂
Hey Lillian, I bet you would like it. A park sounds nice as long as its not cold, snowing or raining! Spring is just around the corner and I think we all get more adventurous then. Thanks Lillian!
If you could have an adventure in that VW van, Brig, I’d suggest you add The Who’s “Magic Bus” to your play list.
Maybe you should visit the city and catch “Ann” at Lincoln Center:
http://theater.nytimes.com/2013/03/08/theater/reviews/ann-with-holland-taylor-at-vivian-beaumont-theater.html?hpw
V, that’s a good one! I would LOVE to see that.
Brig, it might resonate with you.
When that Honda Civic dies, you should definitely get the luxury Volkswagon van, Brigitte! I love the idea of taking a road trip each week and visiting somewhere new. It is a little like making one of Julia Cameron’s “Artist Dates.” I love the picture you paint of “Patch Hog.”
Sally, you can talk yourself out of it but if you make a date with yourself, commit then it’s good, right? You are the third person who has mentioned that book to me and believe it or not, I’ve never read it but I just picked it up yesterday. I’ve not gotten to the “date” part but I’ve always done this, off and on, through the years. I ook forward to working on this. Since this book “keeps coming into my life,” I’d say that’s a sign I should pay attention. Thank you and I hope you have a beautiful weekend!
I love that you did this! I am big on driving off to see what’s going on somewhere else. Go find a little village with cool antique stores! Can’t wait to hear more. Loved the pics, was the old man on the bench , Thaddeus, the toothless guy? He’s darling.
Thanks, Mags. I love doing this too. I love finding antique stores and shuffling through all that wonderful junk. No Thaddeus was just a nice gentleman sitting outside. He’s very cool, don’t you think? Think of the stories he could tell!
Right? I was in a hardware store yesterday and there was a older British woman shopping and she was dressed so beautifully all tweedy and Englandy, gorgeous grey hair, and that accent. I would have loved to talk to her but I got all tongue tied for some reason.
I hope I’m that elegant and cool looking when I’m that age. With that pure white hair and serene look on my face. It will probably be more like gun metal gray and an alarmed look that says, “where did I park my car!!?” Wait, I do that now.
Sent from Brigitte’s iPad
hahaha. I’m never going to look serene or elegant. I can’t even get make up to stay on my face. 🙂
Correction on the enunciation… it’s more like PAA-CHOG. 🙂 You say potaaayto; I say potahhhhto! Any way you slice it, I enjoyed your visit to THE ROAST. Lots of great places in Patchogue to visit. Waterfront’s not far from main street; a good brewery that has hoppin live music on weekend nights, crabby shacks and more. Love the playlist… I miss L.I. radio! Maybe up next you should go to Cold Spring Harbor. What a beautiful main street and a beautiful ride there. Billy Joel stomped all through the area back in the day and you can even stop in at the Whaling Museum! Lots of other great stuff up that way (North shore) as well, like Teddy Roosevelt’s house and several Arboretums… really too much to mention. Enjoy taking in all that L.I. has to offer!!!
Ha! Well, I’ll take your enunciation, you being a Long Guylander and all. Glad you liked it. Which brewery? I LOVE Cold Spring Harbor and do plan to take me a day trip there soon, There’s a restaurant and I can’t remember the name but it has a GORGEOUS view of the harbor. And yes, I’ve driven past the Whaling Museum but not gone in. The library looks beautiful too. I did not know that about Billy Joel. I’ve driven past some arboretums that you’ve mentioned and you are right — this long island has many things to explore. Thanks, Sue.
Brickhouse Brewery in Patchogue.
Re: Cold Spring Harbor, it was the title of (one of?) Billy Joel’s first albums. He was a Hicksville kid… just a town over from where I grew up… and if you lived anywhere around these parts as a kid or teenager, you eventually made your way up to Cold Spring Harbor on your bicycles (which was a considerable distance) just to say you did. As an adult visitor, it is serene and shows traces of its whaling days and just kinda takes you back to old Long Island. Oyster Bay, Bayport, Cold Spring Harbor, Northport, Huntington… the whole stretch there is and will always be my favorite drive on a warm summers day or night. I’ve lived far out on the East End of L.I. as well, which is also beautiful, but I’ll forever be connected to the essence of C.S.H. and surrounding areas.
What’s a village without a pork & ravioli shop? Ick! If I saw a pork & ravioli shop I’d say, “What the hell? Am I on the East Coast or something?” Brrr.
It sounds like you had a ball. I think it’s important for people (especially a person who’s one half of a couple) to be comfortable being by themselves. If you’re capable of entertaining yourself, it’s more likely you’re able to entertain someone else.
Calling the guy in the liberty suit an “actor” is like calling an audiobook narrator a “recording artist.” Although I know a guy who tries to pass off that line…
It was meant to be a funny, ha-ha kind of thing and yeah, it is on the East Coast. I’m an East Coast kind of girl I guess. Not always so brrr though. You should visit it sometimes,.
I had a good time and I’ve been doing things on my own for quite a while as I was on my own for quite a while. It’s important, as you say. I’m quite entertaining — at least to myself. :).
Oh well, everyone has to start somewhere, right? Maybe he is a struggling actor, artist, carpet bagger, lawyer, doctor, angel, writer — you just never know. But he seemed to be a nice fellow. Thanks, Smak!
Your post only reiterates the dividends of remaining mindful and dancing in the moment. We then hold the capacity to change every venture into an adventure. Enjoyed the post and the pictures.
Shakti
Hi Shaki, thank you and so nice to see you here again. It takes practice to be mindful but worth it!
Wandered around in your blog Brigitte, to become acquainted, since you were nice enough to visit and decide to follow. Thanks. I like this blog. One of my favorite things to do is sit in a coffee house and write about what’s going on around me in my journal. Your observations sound like mine. (grin) Anyway, I’ve signed up to follow you and will be looking forward to your blogs.
Hi Curt, I’m so glad you did. I found your amazing blog and read about some of your global adventures — just amazing. I love to sit in coffee houses and write. Sometimes it inspires me to write fiction as well. Thank you for the follow and I look forward to reading more about you and your lovely wife’s adventures all over the world!