As I sit here at my desk rejoicing in the fact that it’s sunny out, my family is safe and healthy and my husband has the holiday off, it makes me take stock of what I have. How great life is and how fortunate I am to live in a country that allows me to take all that in and celebrate it.
As we all move forward into a New Year with both anticipation and trepidation, I hope that we’ll take this giving and kindness spirit along with us. I don’t get political on my blog, but I often get nostalgic, sentimental and philosophical because, well that’s just how I roll. Instead of hiding that fact as I have in the past, feeling sensitive or different or strange or thinking I must be the only person who feels things the way I feel them, I take comfort in the fact that, a) That’s absolutely not true; and, b) I have blessedly and finally reached a point in my life where I have to be true to who I am. As the saying goes, those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
My husband said to me a couple of months ago when I was beginning to feel the holiday anxiety/blues/sadness stuff I’ve felt for the past few years: “You’ve always been a middle-of-the-road kind of person. You nearly always look at the bright side, but not overly so. But, you never were the half-empty kind of person that you seem to think you are now. You’re not, you’re still you, the woman I love, the woman I fell in love with and the holidays will get better. It will. I promise.”
He’s said this in some form or fashion every year. His wisdom, compassion and patience has allowed me to feel what I needed to. This year, I’m turning a corner and my glass is half full far more than it’s empty. I’m very grateful I have a glass.
This time of year we all look back on what we’ve done or not done. What we hope to achieve in the coming year. I am excited about 2017 for no other reason than I feel hopeful that I can now temper any anxiety or sadness with wisdom, compassion and patience.
The way in which we learn things is to first take care of ourselves, lovingly and with non-judgement. Only then, can we give that to others.
If we use wisdom gleaned from experience, be patient with someone who may be going through something we don’t understand and do so, with compassion, it’s powerful. It extends into the Universe and the ripple effect can be magnificent.
I wish all of that for anyone reading this. Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and the very best wishes to you and yours—warmly, compassionately and with love.
Now, please give that to yourself or to someone—it’s the best gift there is.