I have been absent from this platform for a while. I often think of abandoning it altogether but I never do. I’m not sure why and I’m not sure blogging is even a “thing” anymore. Seems as if we abbreviate and shorten our thoughts more than expressing them in detail.
This isn’t about getting on a soapbox of the state of affairs of our country. I still believe with all my heart and soul most people want the best for others, want to do their best and want us all to get along. You don’t see that if you turn on the television so I tend to keep it turned off. It doesn’t mean I don’t keep up with what’s going on. It means that I’m choosy about how I spend my time and spending it fretting, condemning, angrily opposing this or defending that isn’t how I like to get my point across.
I choose kindness. Respect, empathy, understanding and trying my best to allow others to do the same. Voice their concerns and opinions because that is what makes us great. We all have thoughts, feelings, beliefs and how we come to these ideals doesn’t make me right or wrong and it doesn’t make you right or wrong either. It makes us a melting pot of people in a great country inside a beautiful world. And, we all can take part in it, contribute to it and learn to get along.
This is what I believe and I don’t care if that seems naïve or uninformed. I believe it and I believe it’s the only way we are going to prosper and proceed.
I’m not sure how we’ve reached the mentality of us against them, but screaming about our differences obviously isn’t working. Whatever “side” you’re on, you’re not right about everything and I don’t mean that in a disrespectful way. When someone accuses, or attacks the other “side” of being insensitive, stupid, wrong or intolerant, then that someone is mirroring back exactly the same. Intolerance and insensitivity works both ways.
I’m not sure how we got away from that but I’m guessing it may have something to do with flinging out the first thought or response to something that pops into our heads. That is the world in which we live now and it is changing us.
You Did This, No You Did, No You…!!
As a child, I can remember when someone said something mean to me or did something I didn’t like. I reacted as a child—instantly, without thought to the outcome because I didn’t have the mental maturity to think, ponder and respond appropriately. Whatever emotion overtook my brain and body in that moment spewed forth.
As an adult, I’ve learned to breathe, think and respond when I’ve gathered my thoughts so that I can make my point with calm conviction. I try not to scream, throw things and say bad words. I see adults doing that now—doesn’t matter what side it is—everyone seems to want to be heard and they want a response NOW, each pointing fingers at the other: It’s your fault, no it’s yours!!
And on it goes, neither side relenting, neither side listening. I’m not saying I’m Mary Poppins-the world is full of rainbows and unicorns—and I’d like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony kind of person all the time. I’m not. But after witnessing the nonstop onslaught of never-ending discourse that bombards us, I’m weary.
And, I want to live my life the way I want life to be. I think that living with intention and calm conviction is a good start. Whether you are religious, agnostic, atheist, Republican, Democrat, Independent, straight, gay, transgender, whomever you define yourself to be—we all have to get along. We’re sharing the same space here. We want the same things. We live in a country that allows us to voice our opinions and I do not believe it’s the horrible place that the media often portrays it to be. We not all right and we’re not all wrong, but together I think we can figure things out.
I believe we do want to understand each other and I think we can. We just have to stop screaming at each other and listen again. I use Instagram to post pretty pictures of landscapes and my dogs. I use this blog to try and translate an empathic voice and my intention is to spread hope, love and peace to everyone, not one side over the other. If that makes me ill-informed or naïve, I’m good with that.
I hope if you read this, you’ll understand that I’m not trying to begin some big political discussion on who’s right, who’s wrong. I don’t label myself as anything other than me. So, if you do happen to read and want to comment, please do. But, do so with respect and kindness and with the intention of adding to the discussion of empathy and kindness. NO POLITICS HERE.
This isn’t about a battle of sides. On the contrary, it’s the exact opposite. If you read anything else into my ramblings, then I’ve missed the mark. My apologies and go forth and rant in another place and I ask that humbly.
I hang my hopes on believing that “despite all its sham and drudgery, it is still a beautiful world.”
P.S. (Happy Friday and go out and take a look at the sun, moon, sky, clouds or stars—we’re all staring at that same space. We do have something in common after all and that’s a start.)
Enjoy a song, just because it’s a really good one.